Leave a Prayer

Please feel free to leave a prayer for Carol and the kids.  Your words of encouragement, support and presence mean more than you could ever know.

We realize that this tragedy brings up many emotions, but please use your best judgment on what to leave on this blog.  There is plenty of discussion about the complexities of this tragedy happening on many news sites and blogs and any comments that are deemed inappropriate will be immediately deleted.

Again, the family appreciates your prayers.

Comments

[Marcia Lewis Sellman]

Dear Carol,

I am shocked and deeply saddened to hear of the tragic passing of Brian. Oh, my heart, thoughts and prayers are with you my friend. You both have always held such a special place in my heart and my memory banks. What a joy it was to be friends with you both in San Diego, great memories! I think of you quite often and was chuckling the other day remembering our retreat and how much fun Brian made it. I have also retold your amazing "wedding ring lost in open water" story many times as a testimony to keeping faith alive! You and Brian had such a beautiful relationship. Your joy and love for each other, life, and others was so uplifting to be around. You both were always loving, generous, progressive, kind and fun-loving! I missed our friendship when I moved back to New York and am sorry I was not better about staying in touch.

Brian was such a wonderful man. What a loss for all of the people who love him here on earth. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your children Carol. Here is a big hug from New York. Love, Marcia

[Rosalina Baines]

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I was your neighbor in San Diego. We met maybe once or twice at the Mom's club and block party. I will keep you in our prayers. May God comfort you and be with you.
Rosalina Baines

[Ed Shepard]

Carol,

I just spoke with Sara Wade and she told me of this terrible news. You may remember me from Walnut Creek Pres. I am so sorry to hear about this.

You and your family will be in Gretchen's and my thoughts and prayer. I'm so sorry!

Ed Shepard

[Nina Bhatti]

I was so saddened to see the news of Brian's death in the Los Altos paper where I also live. I grew up with Brian in San Jose and lived across the street from him. His sister and mine went to grade school together. Brian and I were in leadership, theater, and hung out with the same kids at Gunderson High School. He was my first phone call when my parents dropped me off at Berkeley and I had to find my way around. Brian had gone there the year ahead of me and being a good friend he said "come right over!"

Brian, all the years I knew him, was so kind and gentle. Never concerned about his security, always thinking of others. The most patient person I knew, I can imagine he turned into a wonderful Dad. I'm so sorry for the Dad that his family has lost and for all of us who have lost one more kind and good person.

It is a terrible shock.

Nina

[Don and Judy Chamberlin]

Dear Carol and the Pugh family,

We knew Brian from Almaden Hills UMC. We remember and celebrate his friendly spirit, beautiful voice, and especially the creativity that he put into many events, especially the Christmas celebration, Plum Pudding. In the later years, it has been such a joy to have your family visit AHUMC. It is a shock that Brian is not with us anymore; we send our heartfelt sympathy to you in your loss. Our prayer is that God will sustain you and give you comfort and peace.

Don and Judy Chamberlin

[Rob Daigle]

Dear Pugh Family,
I remember Brian from our Scouting days in Troop 250 in San Jose and from John Muir JHS. He was a good friend when we were boys and we went camping several times along with his dad and mine. He was always conscientious and caring, and very interested in helping others. We lost touch after scouting, but in reading the accounts of his life, it looks like he had a wonderful life afterwards, rich in blessings and happiness. I hope that my words and good memories of Brian will help provide some measure of condolence for your loss. Sincerely, Rob Daigle.

[John Kusterman]

Dear Carol,

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your children. Brian and I worked very closely during our days at SiWave. I learned a lot from Brian and I am better man for having known him. Brian was one of the most thoughtful, caring men I had the pleasure of working with. He will be missed.

John

[Claudia Infantes]

Dear Carol and family,
You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Claudia Infantes

[The SF Berman Family]

Tragedy ripples through communities as we are all touched by it, some more directly than others. None of us know what the journey we will lead looks like. I hope that you know that members of your comunity, no matter how distant, support you as all of our journeys take an unexpected turn.

The thoughts and prayers of our family reach out to you and your extended family.

[Sheila Benson]

Dear Heavenly Father,

As we enter into a time of Thanksgiving and give thanks for the precious gifts You have given us (and Brian sounds like he was certainly a gift to all of us), followed by the celebration of Christmas which is the birth of our Savior, Jesus Christ, who died for ALL of our sins, I ask that you give very special comfort for Carol during this very difficult time. No words can express the depth of my sorrow for Carol, the kids, and their extended family as they grapple with a whole flood of emotions over how such a Godly man could have his life end this way. I know Lord, that there is often no explanation for the inexpicable, and no answers for the very raw emotions that Carol will be facing. But You understand everything. I don't know Carol's pain, but You know my pain as I struggled with the "why?" when faced with a similar loss. It wasn't until someone showed me the way to You, Lord, that helped me with my pain. I know Carol already knows you Lord, but please help her understand, and find a place for all that she is feeling right now. In my journey, I drew strength for the many biblical teachings that You wanted me to have, and I now offer these up as a source of comfort for Carol and her family. Please continue to bless her, give her greath strength and courage, and provide her with comfort in her faith. You are the Healer. Amen.

Carol, you have my love and deepest prayers along with any emotional support you may want. In addition, I asked the ministry and the life group at my church next door to yours to pray for you and your family. I pulled out scriptures that were handed to me when I was going through my darkest days of my son's senseless death, and I thought they might help you too. Here the are:

Jeremiah 29:11
James 1:12
1 Peter 5:10
Matthew 9:22
Isaiah 41:10/13
Psalm 18:17-19
Psalm 121
1 Peter 1:13
Matthew 28-20
Philippians 4:13
Zephaniah 3:17
1 Peter 5:6-7
2 Timothy 4:7-8
James 4:8
Romans 8:28
Proverbs 3:5-6
Psalm 55:22
Psalm 55:22

I will continue to pray for you and your family every day as I told you I would do.

In God's love,
Sheila Benson

[Angela Mathews and Family]

May the peace of God that surpasses all understanding embellish you and the hearts of your family. I don't know you, but I am an Prayer Intercessor that believes in the Power of prayer and the Power of God during our difficult times.

[Karen Caldwell]

Dear Carol, Joan, Robin, Bruce and Family:

You have my heartfelt sympathy for the tragic loss of Brian.

I am a member of the Rooftop community. In reading about Brian, I am so touched by all of the stories of his warmth, kindness and such generosity of spirit. It breaks my heart to think of your suffering.

I am hopeful that that the tremendous love of those around you will help you with the days ahead.

“Friends are the pillars on your porch. Sometimes they hold you up, sometimes they lean on you, and sometimes it's just enough to know that they are standing by.”

Please accept my sincere condolences.
Karen Caldwell

p.s. I agree wholeheartedly with Robin's sentiments expressed in the interview on this site. Please, we need to disarm.

[Valerie Margol]

To the Pugh and Reyes-Chow families:
I am very sorry for your tragic loss. I hope your family finds peace and comfort in each other, your faith and friends. Take care.
Valerie and Matthew Margol (Rooftop friends)

[Sandra Proctor-Dabis]

Dear Robin, Bruce and Family:

We hope you will find the grace and courage to make sense of this tragedy. Please accept our condolences and prayers. Peace and love be with you.

Sandra, George, Joseph and Kenneth Dabis

[Suzanne and Sam Panoplos]

Dear Robin, Bruce and the entire family,

We were sorry to hear about the tragic loss of your brother. We are at a loss for the right words. We just wanted to let you know that our thoughts and prayers are with you and your entire family. We will keep your sister-in-law and her children in our prayers.

Suzanne and Sam Panoplos and Family

[leslie & Ana]

Dear Robin and Family,
Our thoughts and prayers are with you.

[Sara Zehna]

Dear Family Members, our thoughts and prayers are with you at this difficult time. Brian was our neighbor for many years in Santa Clara, and when we heard of this tragedy we were deeply saddened. Brian was a very kind soul, and we cannot begin to imagine the sorrow you must feel. The Lord will comfort you at this time. The Zehnas

[Riki, Tomi, Rich, and Tami]

God's peace be with you. (Riki and Tomi are classmates of Evelyn, Abby, and Anni.)

[Victor Yan]

Dear Robin and family,
We are sorry for your loss. You and Bruce are always generous with your love for others, and for Rooftop. We want you to know we all love you and your family and always be there to return some of that love. Please accept my deepest condolences and may God keep you all well.

[Victor Yan]

Dear Carol,
May God give you the courage and grace that you desert so well. May the love we all have for you and your family take up a little of your loss, and we can all be a little stronger to face the future.
Victor Yan and family.

[Reggie Thomas]

So sorry to hear of your loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time.
Sincerely, Reggie Thomas, (former Rooftop parent)

[Louise and Bruce Intihar]

Dear Carol,

Our thought and prayers are with you and your children at this time.

Bruce and Louise Intihar (Montclaire family)

[Carolyn and Vince (The Jaramillo Family)]

We are extremely sorry to hear about Robin and her family's loss. If there anything we can do to help make things better, please don't hesitate to let us know.

Are prayers are with you.

Vince and Carol (Rooftop)

[Pam Duarte]

Dear Carol, Nicholas, and Christina,

I have not met you, but I wanted you to know that we have a prayer group of teachers at Montclaire School, who are praying for you and your family in your time of loss. We will continue to do so through the months to come as you process your grief. If you have specific needs that we can be praying for, don't hesitate to let me know. May you find shelter in the wings of Almighty God as He brings you comfort and peace. Remember that His grace is sufficient for every need.

Sincerely,
Pam Duarte, 3rd Grade Teacher

[Pam Duarte]

Dear Carol, Nicholas, and Christina,

I have not met you, but I wanted you to know that we have a prayer group of teachers at Montclaire School, who are praying for you and your family in your time of loss. We will continue to do so through the months to come as you process your grief. If you have specific needs that we can be praying for, don't hesitate to let me know. May you find shelter in the wings of Almighty God as He brings you comfort and peace. Remember that His grace is sufficient for every need.

Sincerely,
Pam Duarte, 3rd Grade Teacher

[Lee-Hwang Family]

Dear Robin and family - We're so sorry to learn of your loss and just wanted to let you know how much we're thinking of your family in such a hard time. Deepest sympathies. Please don't hesitate to let us know if there is anything that we can do to help out with anything at all. Ivy, Victor, Ronin, Kaiden and Aerin

[Rachel and Tony Smith]

I never met Brian, but I know his sister Robin from her kids' school in SF where my son also attends. When I read about Brian's passing in the Chronicle, I thought, this can't be a relative of Robin Pugh. It is a common name. It can't be. My heart felt broken for their families when I realized who Brian Pugh was.

You almost feel you could have known Brian, just by reading so many entries people wrote about him, writing with such easy recollection and high regard. To read entry after entry after entry of this lovely man, anyone can see what a beautiful person he was. He obviously affected so many people, seemingly everyone with whom he worked, acted, played, guided, sang, befriended, interacted.

Please, God, give Brian's family the peace and strength (and some hugs and some smiles when they need it) to get through some difficult days ahead.

- Rachel and Tony Smith (Rooftop School)

[Liz Scarpelli]

My family is part of the Rooftop school community and I know Bruce and Robin. We wish to send our condolences as you grieve for the terrible loss of your husband. May your spirit, strength and love of family and friends offer comfort in these times of sorrow.
Sincerely,
Liz Scarpelli

[Noyes Family]

Dear Pugh Family,

We were saddened to hear of this truly tragic event. Our family send our deepest sympathy and prayers for you in this time of sadness and reflection.

The Noyes Family

[Shannon Linke Cooper]

Dear Robin, Joan, Bruce and family,

I am so very sorry for the loss of Brian. All of you will be in my prayers and thoughts. May our Lord hold you up and encourage your hearts.

Love,
Shannon (and Blaine, Devon, Jonathan, Elizabeth and Mallory)

[Mark Kramerpugh]

Dear uncle Rudy, Robin, Carol and family
I send my deepest prayers for all! I know Brian was a great man and will be so missed! we had some grat times as a kid I will always hold dear to my heart god bless you all Love Mark Kramerpugh

[Betty and Peter Hom]

Carol, Robin, Bruce and the Pugh families....

Our deepest sympathy.

[Joan, John and Chris Stebel]

To the Pugh family - We are deeply saddened by your loss. We will cherish the memories of the times we spent with Brian. Please know that you are in our hearts and minds during this time of grief.

[Melissa Gallant]

Dear Carol and family,
I'm so sorry to hear of your tragic loss. Please know you're in my thoughts and prayers as you face this difficult time. May God grant you an extra measure of peace and comfort now and in the days to come.
Melissa

[Ratan Bhatia]

Dear Carol & family,

I was shocked to hear of Brian's tragedy. I pray to the Lord for the peace of his soul and my deepest condolences to all his family & friends.
I knew Brian while I worked at Samsung.
He supported me very well and was always very easy to work with.

Ratan & family

[Joe Cahak]

I was blessed to work with Brian at Samsung and was able to see him a few times in later years in San Diego when he and I were both down here at different companies. I knew Brian to be one of the most Christian gentleman in the truest sense of the word that I ever knew. He was always encouraging and suportive and a pleasure to be around. I will miss him. I pray for Carol and his children. I am even sorrier now that we didn't get a chance to get the families together while he was down here yet. I know there is a special place for Brian in our hearts and with the good Lord. Bless you Brian and family...

[Sue Davis]

Dear Carol,
I cannot imagine the sadness you are experiencing. Revelation 21:4 tells us that "He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away." May God be your ever-present comfort at this time. I will continue to pray for you.
Love,
Sue

[Caitlin K.]

I babysat for the Pugh family one time, so really saw more of the kids than I did of Mr. Pugh, who I only talked to for ten or fifteen minutes. I remembered him after though because he was just so nice, and sweet and lighthearted. I am extremely sad for the entire Pugh family and especially for Mrs. Pugh’s two children, because they are some of the sweetest kids I’ve met and I could tell they loved him so much. I remember their daughter went running to the door when she saw her dad was home and gave him a huge hug, and then insisted that he come and see the things she had been up to while he was gone. He seemed like such a great father. I’m sure he’ll be greatly missed and I give my condolences to the entire family.

[Kimberly Elliot]

Dear Carol and family
As a friend of Bruce and Robin I would like to pass on how very sorry I am for your tragic loss. May you feel the tangible arms of God surrounding you and giving you courage and strength in this time.

May the words of Psalm 46 bring some comfort:
God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. Therefore we will not fear, though the earth should change, though the mountains shake in the heart of the sea. The Lord of hosts is with us, the God of Jacob is our refuge.

The prayers of my church community are with you and your entire family in this time (and to you as well Robin and Bruce! Much, much love and comfort to you in this time).
Blessings
Rev. Kimberly Elliot
College Heights Church, San Mateo

[Anna & Bobby Gee]

May God's love enfold & comfort you and your family. Just know that even in your darkest and loneliest moments that the Lord is with you. Psalm 119:114
"You are my refuge and my shield; I have put my hope in your word."
You are in our prayers. May Brian's and your lives be a great testimony to the faith & hope you have in Christ as He sustains you.

[Joanne Whitt]

Dear Carol and family:
Our whole congregation in San Anselmo is holding you and your family in prayer. May you feel as though God is cradling you and your children in the palm of God's hand.
Blessings,
Joanne Whitt
Pastor, First Presbyterian Church of San Anselmo

[Mary Leong]

Dear Carol ~
My heartfelt thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family. Know that you are surrounded by a vast ocean of support and love.

Mary W. Leong
Donaldina Cameron House

[Steve Brown]

Dear Carol and family. I had the pleasrue to work woth Brian for many years at Silicon Wave and then more recently Quorum Systems. He was always professional and a good,honest,genuine person. He will be missed by al of us who knew him.

You will be in our thougths and prayers.

[Carole L. Vincent]

Gracious God,
May your comfort and love be very close and real to Carol, the children and all who knew and loved Brian. Keep us connected to you and one another, and bring your peace. Through Christ. Amen.

[Dana Gilligan Bagshaw]

Dear Robin, Joan, and Rudy,
My heart and prayers go out to you from here in England. I remember Brian from our Scouting days together and know how much he meant to you. I can't imagine what it would be like to lose a brother and son in this way. May God be with you as you come to terms with it.

Love, Dana

[Deborah Milam Berkley]

I can't even begin to imagine what your grief must be. I am praying for you as you go through this awful time.

I had cancer three years ago, and as I traveled through that journey, I discovered that God was not different just because a terrible thing had happened to me. He was still just as good and just as loving as he had been before.

I pray that you will know this too, and that his loving arms will be around you, even if you can't always feel them.

Debbie Berkley

[Christa]

To all of Brian's family, I didnt get to know my nephew as good as I would have loved,but I know that he was a very well loved man and Im proud to know that he meant so much to so many.When they told me they were naming Christina after ladies in thier family,and I was one of them,my heart swelled with love and pride.I am honored by my wonderful nephew and his family to be included in this special way.My prayers are with you,always. Love Aunt Chris

[Nancy Walsh - Rainbow Kids Integral Preschool]

Dear Carol, Nicholas and Christina,

How my heart sank today when I learned that the tragedy in Northern California had affected your family. You all are in my thoughts and prayers. I have such wonderful memories of Brian bringing the children to school. His warmth and smiles always lit up the school. I so enjoyed talking music with both of you.

I send you love and hugs knowing that Brian is being cared for by the Lord. There is now a special guardian angel watching and protecting all of you.

Love,

Nancy

[Scott & Lynn Nauman]

Our gracious heavenly Father, You are El Shaddai, God Almighty. You are El Elyon, The Most High God. You are El Roi, The God Who Sees. You are The Sovereign God of the Universe and You are a God of compassion and healing. We do not understand Your ways because they are so much higher than ours, but we trust Your loving hand in this tragic situation. Help Carol and all those affected by this to know that You are present, that You see what is happening and You grieve with them. Give them Your peace that passes all understanding and please help them to run to You, not away from You. You be their strong tower, their shelter, their hiding place.

Father, let them know how much they are loved by You and those around them, even those who are thousands of miles away. Comfort them. Keep them.

In Jesus' name. Amen

[Tom Mounts]

My Prayer is the comfort I find in Isaiah 40 28-31
Hast thou not known? hast thou not heard, that the everlasting God, the LORD, the Creator of the ends of the earth, fainteth not, neither is weary? there is no searching of his understanding.
He giveth power to the faint; and to them that have no might he increaseth strength.
Even the youths shall faint and be weary, and the young men shall utterly fall:
But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.

Carol, Nicholas and Christina...may you mount up with wings as eagles, run and not be weary, walk and not faint, as the Lord raises you up.